For parents, one of the worst aspects of a failed marriage is having to sit down with their kids and explain that their lives are about to change. However, Florida parents should know that with the right degree of preparation and effort, it is possible to have those discussions in a way that is positive and healthy for all involved. Above all else, kids should be reassured that they are loved, and that they will always have the love and support of both parents even after a divorce.
Begin preparing by thinking about the age of each child, and tailoring the conversation to an age-appropriate level. For families with kids that have a big age difference, it might be easier to have one family talk, then go into more detail with an older child on a one-on-one basis. It is important to remove any aspect of blame from the equation, which can be difficult under certain circumstances.
Kids will have questions about the divorce and how it will impact their daily lives. Parents should be prepared to answer those questions honestly. That said, kids do not need to know every detail of the reasons behind the split, and are not able to process much of that information.
Finally, an emphasis should be placed on those things that will remain the same during and after a divorce. Kids should know that their parents’ love, their relationship with extended family and many of their traditions will stay the same. Having that level of security can go a long way toward helping Florida children adjust to the realities of a divorce.
Source: examiner-enterprise.com, “CONCERNING KIDS: Be open, honest during a divorce“, Oct. 7, 2016