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For many Florida spouses, going through a divorce will be one of the most emotionally challenging experiences of their lives. It is unfortunate that at the same time that a spouse is coming to terms with the end of his or her marriage, a multitude of other issues must be addressed. In order to achieve the best possible divorce settlement, spouses must be able to set aside their emotional response to the divorce and focus on the tasks at hand.

One of the most helpful things to remember during this period of time is that the healing process that follows a divorce will take time. There is no need to feel pressure to “move on” or move beyond a divorce, as each individual will have his or her own time line when it comes to the healing process. Spouses should give themselves the time needed to accept the end of the relationship and move forward.

At the same time, spending excessive amounts of time and energy replaying the demise of the marriage is not productive. Some spouses combat this urge by setting aside strict blocks of time in which these thoughts are allowed, then refusing to engage in such ruminations outside of those windows. Others simple make every effort to focus on the future, and not on the past. By looking ahead, individuals can work to identify their needs for the months and years ahead, and then work to reach a divorce settlement that supports those needs.

By taking the advice given here to heart, Florida spouses can make great strides toward refocusing their efforts away from the past and toward the future. Over time, the emotional connection to the marriage and divorce will shift and fade, and the subject will no longer hold the same emotional charge that it does in the early stages of divorce. Until that time, spouses who are able to look toward their future may find it easier to reach a favorable settlement.

Source: The Huffington Post, “4 Things to Keep in Mind When Healing After Divorce or Breakup“, Jennifer Twardowski, Aug. 4, 2015