When an individual embarks on the road to divorce, the path that lies ahead is often full of many unexpected surprises. Even in cases where an individual wants a divorce, there are bound to be days when the process of untangling one’s life from that of a soon-to-be ex-spouse is difficult and emotionally taxing. While the road to divorce is full of unexpected ups and downs, an individual can take measures to safeguard against experiencing the extreme lows that may otherwise cloud even the most reasonable and resolved individual’s judgment.
Once the decision has been made to divorce, it’s important to remain focused on the future. Envisioning a happier way of life can go a long way towards helping make an individual’s future dream become a reality. Dwelling on the past and wallowing in feelings of anger, blame and resentment will only serve to drag an individual down and distract from one’s future hopes and dreams.
That’s not to say the divorce process will be easy. There will certainly be times that are difficult and, during these times, it’s important to have the love and support of close family members and friends. Being able to vent freely and openly with a sibling or best friend provides an important emotional and mental release. While dwelling on the negative can be damaging to an individual’s psyche, it is important to acknowledge feelings of anger and resentment so one can move beyond their negative grip.
Taking this approach to the divorce process can also benefit an individual when it comes to negotiating the terms of a divorce and child custody settlement. In some cases, estranged spouses may be able to agree on many divorce terms that could otherwise end up costing both individuals precious time, energy and money.
When going through a divorce, not all attorneys are alike or a good match for one’s needs. It’s important to be selective when choosing a divorce attorney and to ultimately hire an attorney who will take the time to listen to and understand an individual’s concerns and ultimate future goals.
Source: The Huffington Post, “5 Tips for Divorcing Peacefully,” Cheryl and Joe Dillon, Nov. 5, 2014