Maintaining Communication With Your Ex-Spouse

If you and your ex-spouse have children under 18 when your divorce is completed, you will likely share parenting responsibilities. The parenting plan that is developed as part of the divorce process will provide specifics on where the children will spend their days and nights, as well as each parent's role in making decisions about education, health care, religious training and other matters.

A cooperative approach in all parenting matters following divorce or the end of a nonmarital relationship will help both parents provide the best possible care for their children. If your relationship with your children's other parent remains acrimonious, it may negatively affect the quality of the relationship that your children have with both parents. Strong communication and continued cooperation between divorced parents will establish a more stable environment for children to adapt and thrive long term.

Technological Tools For Divorced Parents

Clear communication between divorced parents is essential to maintaining a cooperative and productive co-parenting environment. As with every aspect of life in the 21st century, technology has made co-parenting more simple through easy-to-use communication tools such as emails and text messages.

Software companies have developed platforms that keep detailed electronic records of all communication between parents that cannot be deleted or altered by either parent. These records can be referenced if a dispute between parents results in additional litigation.

In high-conflict situations, particularly those that involve domestic violence, Florida courts may order both parents to communicate exclusively through one of these third-party systems. Currently, courts are using either a program named Talking Parents or one named Our Family Wizard when third-party validation of the communication between parents is necessary.

Attorney Rebekah Brown-Wiseman is familiar with these third-party parenting communication platforms and the important role they can play in disputes regarding enforcement of parenting plans or the pursuit of custody modifications.

Helpful Ideas For Successful Co-Parenting

We welcome the opportunity to work with parents who need help enforcing a parenting plan or wish to seek modifications to an existing parenting plan. Ms. Brown-Wiseman offers these tips for maintaining a cooperative co-parenting relationship or to help mend a parenting situation that is not functioning well:

  • Share information about children in a timely fashion - The time when parents exchange children provides a good opportunity to share any information about issues involving the children.
  • Establish privacy boundaries - Agree early in the co-parenting process to respect each other's privacy by not asking children to share information about the other parent's personal life.
  • Do not critique the other parent in front of your children - If you disagree with a decision that your children's other parent has made, discuss it in private.
  • Value your time with your children - Cherish the time that you have with your children and understand the influence you have on them. Nobody benefits if you hold on to negative feelings about your ex-spouse while you are with your children.

Contact Us If You Are Wrestling With Co-Parenting Issues

If your children's other parent is not adhering to a court-approved parenting plan, or if there are reasons to seek modifications to an existing plan, we can help. Call 954-563-1331 or use our online contact form to schedule a consultation.